There’s an old adage that goes something like this; “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Some people (pardon my “French”) are a**hats - evil self-serving, and selfish “sorry excuses” for human beings. Apparently, a disgruntled family member decided to write a derogatory obituary about their deceased mother. In addition, a local newspaper ran the obituary. Shame on you both - Karma will certainly “catch up” with you.
Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.
She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.
Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.
Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.
There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
While it’s hard to believe that a family member could be so caustic and childish, according to Snopes.com the obituary was run on August 16th and 17th in the Vallejo (California) Times Herald. Therefore, I choose to “re-write” her obituary.
Dolores Aguilar was born in 1929 in the Land of Enchantment, New Mexico. She left this earthly life on August 7, 2008. She is preceded in death by Raymond her husband, Paul Jr. her son, and Ruby her daughter.
She is survived by her children (one or more who is apparently an “a**hat”) Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia, Ramona, and Billy. She is also survived by several grandchildren.
Dolores apparently made her family her hobby, and was possibly distraught at having nine children. While not noted when her husband passed, she was quite possibly overwhelmed at having nine children - both emotionally and physically. Not a saint by any means, Dolores did the “best she could” with so many children and no time to nourish her own soul. Dolores’ “hobby” was in essence her family. Unfortunately, with so many children to tend to, one (or more) apparently felt it was “all about me” and have decided to judge you. While it is sad that at least one of the children that you raised is a “whining brat,” I’m sure that her other siblings have more “positive qualities.”
While I didn’t know you personally, I’m sorry that life must have been “difficult” for you and your contributions and life will continue to live on. Yes, even in your a**hat, childish, and rude daughter.
Whatever your life was, I hope that you found moments of happiness and that you now rest in peace. Tonight, I say a prayer for your eternal soul and know that there are people who will miss you.
