Monday * April 23rd 2018

Eye-Yikes, Summer Sojourn, Self-Acceptance

Some days are just plain challenging difficult…

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Photo of his cornea transplant by Mario Rio

We all have our challenges in life, and one of mine is a medical issue in my right eye.  It usually is under control, but if I feel/notice any changes I’m to call my ophthalmologist STAT, and get a same-day appointment.

It certainly didn’t help that on the way to the ophthalmologist, someone veered to the right into my lane and almost collided with me.  The only place for me to go was “solidly” into a sem-truck.  I braced myself for the collision which thankfully didn’t happen, but I arrived at my appointment “nervous and shaken.”

I’m thankful it wasn’t the issue I thought it was, but I do have an abrasion on my eye surface.  To be on the safe side, I was given a prescription for an eye drop anti-infective, and told to use gel eye drops to keep my eye lubricated.  Why am I even mentioning this at all?

The ophthalmologist wants me to “stick around” for a week to make sure it heals properly. 

That means “Postpone going on your “summer sojourn” in your RV.  🙁

Long Road Home

The Long Road Home

Wait a minute – I AM home.  For some reason, there has seemed to be many obstacles (I won’t list them here) that have prevented me from leaving.  Now, I have another (albeit small) one.

This too shall pass…

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Regret or Rejoice

Every day, God/Life/The Universe teaches us valuable lessons.  Depending on our life view at the moment, sometimes we can gracefully “go with the flow” instead of reacting by “kicking and screaming.”

Recently, I’ve found great comfort (and instruction) in the following ten guides to self-acceptance.

  1. Find yourself and define yourself on your terms.  Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.
  2. Avoid fixating on the past and not letting yourself grow.  One of the most unhealthy approaches to being oneself is to make a decision that who you are is defined by a moment or period of time, after which you spend the rest of your life trying to still be that person from the past rather than someone who is still you but grows with the passing of each season and decade.
  3. Stop caring about how people perceive you.  Some of them will like you and some of them won’t.
  4. Be honest and open.  What have you got to hide? We’re all imperfect, growing, learning human beings.
  5. Relax.  Stop worrying about the worst that could happen.
  6. Treat yourself as you’d treat your own best friend.  You value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment.
  7. Develop and express your individuality.   Whether it’s your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, then be proud of it.
  8. Stop comparing yourself to others.  If you’re always striving to be someone you’re not already, you’ll never be a happy person.
  9. Follow your own style.  The common thing a lot of people do is copy others’ actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn’t you stand out?
  10. Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and that some days you are the statue.   People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say “Hey, that’s just me” and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you’ll respect yourself.


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22 Replies to Desert Diva to “Eye-Yikes, Summer Sojourn, Self-Acceptance”

  1. Paul Dahl says:

    What is it with right eyes? Not only do you have issues with your right eye, both myself and my wife do, too. I guess the right eye is the wrong eye… ;c)

    Nice list of thoughts, they certainly make a lot of sense. Hope that your having to wait a week will pay off in a great trip in the long run.
    Paul Dahl´s last blog post ..Guardedly Optimistic

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Paul,

      Yep, I guess the “right eye is the wrong eye.” I’m surprised that you and your wife have right eye issues too.

      I suppose I just need to be “patient” and wait so I can really ENJOY my trip.


  2. Hope the eye heals fairly quickly because your burning daylight as the duke would have said and missing time to be having an adventure.

    The part about being yourself is so very true because if you are not you will never be totally happy. Be Safe and Enjoy!

    It’s about time.

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi you two!

      Thanks for the kind remarks about my eye and “being myself.” I’m somewhat “itchy” to get on the road, but I don’t think that’s a medical problem! 😉


  3. Dave UNITED STATES says:

    Gotta take care of those eyes….hard to take great photos with them!

    Water went past that bridge many days ago…don’t try to divert it back, let it flow away. Honestly, I think both of you learned a valuable lesson, sometimes life’s lessons are bit hard to chew, that’s all. Love your list…lots to think about there. –Dave (

    ps: since we are in the lower foothills of the Sierras at an RV park still, we just left Skruffy and Bubba in the RV during the night of the 4th while we went to the LOUD city of Citrus Heights (where last year she was shivering in my arms it was so bad). Here in the foothills it is against the law for any type of fireworks, so for the first 4th in Skruffy’s life with me, she had a peaceful night with Bubba.
    Dave´s last blog post ..Fourth of July — Warning, the Soapbox is Out

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hey Dave,

      You’re exactly right – water under the bridge. I went back in and changed the post. 🙂

      I was at home, but the noise started close to midnight. I had to hold Cali in my arms tightly and soothe her with petting and speaking softly to her. I’m glad your “furry ones” had a peaceful and quiet July 4th.


  4. Luz says:

    There’s a reason you’re not supposed to be on the road yet and only He knows why! Still it’s not easy to keep hitting road blocks and it can be frustrating–believe me I know!
    Luz´s last blog post ..♥ Rachmaninoff’s “Rhapsody on a Theme of Paganini”

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hey Luz,

      Thanks for the support – yep, I’m frustrated since it’s really hot here. However, it will “all be good” soon!

      Take care,

  5. Oh, Cheryl, sorry to hear about your eye issue; but I agree with Luz … there’s a reason you’re not on the road now. Relax and see what comes your way that wouldn’t have if you’d already left! I’m seeming to suffer more this year from the heat – last Summer I was in Guatemala, the land of the eternal Spring – so I’m out of practice with this 110+ stuff. Happy Saturday. I just got back from Camping World where they’d estimated I’d be for 5 hours – it turned out to be about 3 so now I have time to spare.
    mary-pat sherman´s last blog post ..Really Getting on with Preparations

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Mary-Pat,

      Yes, I’m sure there IS a reason. I actually scored a TomTom GPS at Goodwill today (new from Target) for the sweet price of $49.99 with lifetime maps. It also syncs with my cell phone so I can do hands free while driving.

      I’m so excited for you and your new rig – maybe I’ll be next! Are you going to tow a car?

      Happy Saturday!

  6. cozygirl says:

    Hope the drops get you back to feeling better soon….nice words to remember – especially RELAX! I’m trying :O)

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Cozy,

      Actually, the gel OTC drops make my eye feel better. However, I do want to be sure I don’t develop an eye infection. I run hot and cold about getting on the road again. I just need a little “push.”

      Have a great weekend…

  7. I can sympathize with anyone having eye problems. I’ve had cataracts removed from both eyes, and then cornea transplants on both. My right eye has never been “right” since. I hope yours gets better really soon and you are on the road.

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Martha,

      Thank you so very much for commenting and your words of encouragement. I’m sort of in a “funk” at the moment and feel that my obstacles are never ending. I’m so very sorry that you have been though so much with your eyes. We don’t realize and are thankful for our “gifts” until they begin to fail us. I’m taking it one day at a time and trying to relax before hopefully heading out soon.

      Thanks again,

  8. Gaelyn says:

    Go with the flow then let go and get the hell on the road. I know, patience. It WILL come.
    Gaelyn´s last blog post ..Foto Friday Fun 14

  9. Contessa CANADA says:

    Ouch, eye abrasions hurt real bad! Only thing for it is an extra glass of vino. Who knows why you were delayed yet again but it happened for a reason you may never discover. However it was a delay not a full STOP so keep planning and plan on heading out directly after your eye appointment next week. I suggest you pack and load the night before :))
    Contessa´s last blog post ..Que pasa?

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Contessa,

      I hope you’re feeling better and better each day. Yep, the eye is scratchy and raw feeling. I’ll take you order and have an extra glass of vino tonight! 😉 I should be headed out sometime next week…

      Take care,

  10. Jo UNITED STATES says:

    Sometimes it seems like things will never go right. But to my way of thinking there is a reason for all things.

    Hope your eye heals quickly and no more problems to get in the way. I like you list can relate to most.

    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Jo,

      Yes, all things do happen for a reason – even thought the immediate reason is unknown to us. Thanks for your good wishes. I know I’ll be “on the road” soon…


    • Desert Diva says:

      Hi Jo,

      Yes, all things do happen for a reason – even thought the immediate reason is unknown to us. Thanks for your good wishes. I know I’ll be “on the road” soon…


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