Sunday * November 23rd 2014

Life in Las Cruces…

Leaf on Water

It’s so good to be home and life in Las Cruces is beautiful this time of year…

It’s actually quite beautiful here in Las Cruces this time of year.  I’m happy to be home, but due to the September rains have a jungle growing in my desert landscape backyard.  It will all get done in due time…

My Cali girl seems to have good and bad days, and after I get my medical “ducks in a row” I’m going to make an appointment for her with the vet.  She has a limp in her right front foot, and from the total body x-ray she had when she “rolled under the flatbed trailer” in Nevada on our way home last year I know she has arthritis.  When she seems to be in real pain, I give her a dose of the Previcox the vet prescribed in Winnemucca.  When she saw the vet in March she suggested I give her 500 mg/day of glucosamine, which I’ve been doing.  I switched to a “human brand” that has omega-3 fish oil too.  When I give her a dose of the Previcox, the results are almost immediate – she stops limping and goes into “puppy mode.”  I only give it to her when she seems to be in distress…

I had some hip pain when I was on the road, but it’s all but gone here at home.  I had to “buck up” and make an appointment with the reproductive endocrinologist in Albuquerque I’ve seen for osteoporosis.  I have an appointment for October 31st and he’s going to order my bone density scan at the same radiologist I’ve seen here in Las Cruces.  They’ll fax the results.  The only “happy” part is that I’m attending the Albuquerque Tango Festival which starts – October 31st!  :-)   I’m not expecting good number since I’ve been “less than faithful” about taking my meds.  (Evista)  It “is” what it “is.”

I”m not staying at the festival venue, but I found a “pet friendly” motel that’s 1/3 mile away.  Cali’s going too since she’s twelve now and I hate to stress her out by boarding her.

I’m excited about the Albuquerque festival since I have friends that will be going.  Yes, Virginia that equals male friends to dance with!  :-)  I’m having a local seamstress make some Babucha pants with some lovely material.  Hey, I guess there’s still life in this sixty-one year old chick!  ;-)

Changing signals…

Today I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about eliminating things from my life that no longer serve me.  I was a former member of an RV group for singles (I won’t mention the name) and in MY experience found the members (especially the established long-term ones) unwelcoming and even unfriendly.  The leadership changed, and thus came a new set of rules and regulations.

It’s not that the new leadership is doing a bad job – quite the contrary.  However, the “established” member are rather well… – unfriendly.  I had let my membership lapse and thought about rejoining, but I don’t want to.  They have a large “shindig” over Thanksgiving in Borrego Springs, and a huge Christmas/New Year’s gathering in Yuma.  I would go because I didn’t want to be alone over the holidays, but I can’t say I actually enjoyed it.  So, it’s over – I’m not rejoining.

There was an “episode” on FB where a former member “vented” and probably said some things better kept to a private conversation.  However, some people (and one in particular) spewed hateful venom and that was the clincher for me.  There are some folks that I care for and will try to maintain friendships with, but I suppose I’m not a “joiner.”

I’d like to spend the holidays with friends, but in the same token I’m not adverse to spending time alone with my Cali girl.

I find I do better one-on-one…

OK, or at least in a smaller group where I trust *gasp* the people I interact with.  Why are some people so mean-spirited?  Why can’t we all just get along?

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  1. Ingrid UNITED STATES says:

    I can relate to your reasons for not rejoining that group. It’s rather ridiculous to see grown people act like they are in high school….we experienced a bit of that last year in Quartzsite. I do hope you’ll share photos of you custom Tango outfit. How fun!
    Ingrid´s last blog post ..Exfoliation, natures way!

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Ingrid,

      Yep, I’m not rejoining. Actually, when I travel I meet lots of folks naturally so it’s just as fun. I’ll share photos of my tango outfit when my seamstress gets it finished – I’m so excited! :-)

      Cheryl

  2. Gaelyn says:

    You don’t have to like everybody.
    Gaelyn´s last blog post ..Shutdown at Grand Canyon Day 1

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Gaelyn,

      I know I don’t have to like everyone. However, I was a teacher and didn’t you ever hear of the “Barney song?” ;-)

      Cheryl

  3. Sandie UNITED STATES says:

    Have a great time at the Festival. Dance holes in your shoes. Poor Cali, it really is tough getting old for all of us. Whenever you get a group of people together you end up with “issues”. I like to wander with a bunch of folks.

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Sandie,

      Thanks – I’m really excited about going to Albuquerque (not so much about visiting the endocrinologist though). You’re exactly correct – the more people the more issues. I like to wander and meet up in smaller groups now…

      Cheryl

  4. Hope you can keep Cali comfortable, Your Tango Festival sounds like a fun time.
    We have found a lot of those small groups can be pretty frustrating. That’s why we best like moving about and setting in for the holidays at different places.

  5. Jo UNITED STATES says:

    I wonder if your talking about the same group I had a bad experience with. It was bad enough it cost so much to join and then an additional cost for the local chapter. I sent out an e-mail to introduce myself and never received one answer. Needless to say I did not rejoin.

    Wishing you and Cali a welcome home although I see you have been back for a while now.

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Jo,

      It’s not the same group because they don’t have local chapters. Again, it’s not a bad group but I’ve never really felt a part when I’ve joined them for activities. Some of the women are “territorial” when it comes to males in the group and make it rather obvious that they are “staking their claim.” I only joined them infrequently, but when I did I had a “less than fun” time. Part of the reason may be because many of them are full-timers and travel the summer and winter circuits together as a group – therefore they’re together all of the time in somewhat of a community.

      Thanks for the welcome home – it’s been a week today! :-)

      Cheryl

  6. Rose UNITED STATES says:

    You know, it is going to be very painful for you, these next years with Cali. You love her so. Have you given thought to another dog? I have found that the only thing that makes losing one bearable is coming home to another one that I love. It’s a terrible hole when it happens.
    I’m not a joiner either. I think our society has a way of making us feel guilty for that. You know, we should all get along and glory in human company because humans are just so darn wonderful, aren’t we? But, you know, we’re just not. As I get older, I enjoy solitude, studying, some carefully chosen volunteer activities, etc. with my house full of pets. Getting to know myself in ways that were in the background for a long time.
    Loved your post on the tango. I think the tango scene in “Scent of a Woman” is absolutely priceless. A tortured man who truly loved women. I think there are a lot of them out there like that.
    Thanks for sharing such a personal side of yourself.

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Rose,

      Thanks for commenting and your kind words. Several years ago I lost the very first dog of my own to canine kidney disease. I never thought I’d get another dog (or love one again), but then Cali came along. As you well know, dogs “love” us unconditionally and we all need that in our lives.

      It’s not that I expect everyone to get along in a group, but I guess I’m shocked when people say disparaging, hateful things about others. We’re all just trying to “live” and I’m still shocked when I see hate in the world.

      Thanks for your comments about the tango. I’ve surprised myself with the passion I feel for it. Thanks again for your thoughtful comments – I really enjoyed reading what you wrote. At this point and time in my life, it’s important to work on “me” and do things that fill my soul with gratitude and happiness. Thanks for confirming that for me…

      Cheryl

  7. Contessa CANADA says:

    Sorry to hear about the osteoporosis. When they did my bone density it looked so bad that they upped my hip surgery date by 2 months. So I am now taking extra calcium and a natural product to help with the absorption of same in my body. Sadly our fur babies are all going getting older. The best we can do for them is to love them and keep them comfortable. Colin and I have made the decision to not have replace our girls when they pass on. At least not until our RVing days are over.

    You are most welcome to come join us for Christmas in Mazatlan. I know of 2 ladies travelling solo in their RV’s coming that way.

    Looking forward to seeing those tango pants with your new shoes.
    Contessa´s last blog post ..Shaw Direct ~ USA/Mexico UPDATE

    • Desert Diva UNITED STATES says:

      Hi Contessa,

      I found out that I had it at forty-five and took Fosamax for awhile. However, it was hard on my system and I developed “silent” acid reflux where I would wake up choking in the middle of the night. I was actually born with a disorder (not life threatening) that caused me to have osteoporosis as a side effect. I’d be interested to know about the natural product that helps with the absorption of the calcium you take. I’m not looking forward to getting the bone density scan and going to the doctor, since I’m pretty sure the numbers will be bad and I’ll get a lecture.

      Humans and pets all age. You’re absolutely right about loving them and keeping them comfortable. I don’t even want to think about ever losing Cali – it’s too painful.

      Thanks for the invite to Mazatlan. If I could find someone to travel down in a caravan with, I’d be game.

      Cheryl

  8. Pam Wright UNITED STATES says:

    Good for you to decided not to rejoin the singles group. There comes a point in life where we all realize we don’t need the negative in our lives. Some people just can’t accept each person as an individual.

    Hope all goes well with your vet and doctor visits!
    Pam Wright´s last blog post ..Hiking Around Lakes Williams and Redman

  9. Bob CANADA says:

    Any time this kind of subject comes up, I think of something attributed to Groucho Marx, and I’m not even sure if it’s true that he said it, or if I’m getting the wording correct, but here goes, “I’d never want to be a member of any club that would have me as a member.”
    Which is not to say that that should apply to you, don’t get me wrong.
    But if anyone asks why I don’t “join”, I give that reason. And that’s that.
    Groups are overrated.
    Avoiding nasty people is less so.
    Bob´s last blog post ..Oh, to be a comedian right now.

  10. Donna Huffer UNITED STATES says:

    I finally got to your blog. Thanks for the comments. We don’t need that kind of hassel. Had to laugh when one ex-member said we should have a Former Member gathering right next to them and charge THEM $30 to visit with us.

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